Everyday we receive reminders that we are at war. Pictures from Iraq are on TV every night. Violent events  in our cities are reported daily as well. Movies and  television shows add to the climate by making us believe  that violence is more prevalent than it really is. There  is a picture of violence shown on TV every few seconds.  New video games display graphic scenes of shooting and  killing. With the pervasive onslaught of violence, how can  parents maintain a peaceful home?

We need to step back for one moment and realize that  exposure to violence has affects on our children. Children  who witness violence are less secure and more violent than  those who do not. Many will become desensitized to  violence. This means they are more accepting of violence  they may witness at school and sports events. They may be  less likely to intercede to stop violence that they  witness. Children can become unable to solve problems  without violence. Many can suffer bad dreams and fears  about school. Some kids bully others and other kids get  bullied. These are real reasons to work for a more  peaceful home.

To make our homes peaceful, we need to recognize that  violence is marketed to us. It sells. It is easy to play  on peoples fears. Fear is a powerful emotion. We need to  recognize how powerful an influence this is in our society  and take steps to fight it.

Families need to turn off and tune out of TV and  computer sites that exploit violence. Keep kids away from  adult material on TV and in movies. Don’t buy guns, swords  or other violently focused toys and games. If you have  violent toys and games, give them up. Some groups organize  toy gun disposal projects. Turn off violent music.  Institute quiet times at home and play peaceful music.

Get outside and see nature. Nature’s beauty is a  strong antidote to killings on TV. Create and build. Art  and construction projects build up rather than tear down.

Let’s all boycott violent shows, movies and news  reports. Maybe the marketers will change their focus.

If you have witnessed real violence seek help. Real  violence shocks our system. We may accept it more when it  happens to others, but it is shocking when it happens to  us. Post traumatic stress disorder is common after  involvement in a violent event.

Be aware of what is happening at your school. Schools  are dealing with more fights and bullying then ever before.  Know your school’s policies on bullying. If you suspect it  happening to your child, contact the guidance office.

Violence is happening all around us –mostly  transmitted to us through the media. Families can work on  stopping violence starting with decreasing exposure on TV  and computers. Talk about the violence you see in movies.  Express to your children how you feel about violence and  how you expect them to behave in threatening situations.  Using some of the ideas presented here and some of your own  creativity, you can raise an aware child in your peaceful  home environment.